Eve Ensler and the Vagina Monologues
By Kyle | August 18, 2008
This video is a “must see”… Eve Ensler is the creatrix of the Vagina Monologues, and she articulates why I do what I do. I know that the areas of my own journey that have been the most difficult are the areas that I desire the deepest healing…. so helping other people remember how magnificent and wonderful they are is clearly at the root of my passion and purpose.
“happiness exists in action, it exists in telling the truth, and saying what your truth is, and it exists in giving away what you want most.” Eve Ensler
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Full Moon - Lunar Eclipse August 16th
By Kyle | August 15, 2008
On August 16th at 2:18 p.m. PDT we will experience a full eclipse of the moon. Do you know what is the significance of an lunar eclipse is, and how it impact people…. or more specifically you?
It depends. Where the eclipse falls in the sky can be even more distinct for your life then just an eclipse occurring, which alone is significant.
The word “eclipse” stems from the Greek verbs ecleipo (to cease existing) and calypse (”to cover”). The Sun represents the logical aspects of life, and relates to “father”, the Moon represents the emotional aspects of life, and relates to “mother”. When the Moon moves into the shadow of the Earth for a few hours, we simply experience the Moon directly without the reflected light of the Sun. In essence we experience a deeper level of ourselves and can see things in a much different light.
This particular eclipse incorporates all three of the outer planets (Neptune, Uranus and Pluto), with Neptune at 23 degrees Aquarius being the closest. Neptune will be right next to the Moon which is at 24 degrees Aquarius during the eclipse.
What that indicates is that the mystical elements, or dreamy nature of Neptune further amplifies the Moon’s already spiritual elements so your intuition will be heightened - and your highest hopes and dreams easier to envision. Neptune enables us to feel the depth of connection we share with one and other, as we ARE all connected. If you allow Neptune’s influence to heighten your awareness, you are effectively allowing for a conscious connection with all that you are wanting to create.
Easier said than done, but worth the effort. It is falling on a weekend day, so my recommendation is to meditate, contemplate, be in nature, do something artistic… literally have some quiet and expansive FUN. Allow your mind to turn off, as it will (in other words don’t try to do something too awful productive… ) naturally, and make room for impressions and “God” nudges to make their way into your conscious mind.
The Aquarian ideal is community… everyone, all inclusive and expanded value for all. Let yourself dream of a future where your dreams, the dreams of your sisters and brothers, and the dreams of the planet are realized.
Blessed be….
The Queen
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Here’s the Truth
By Kyle | July 25, 2008
It’s funny what happens when you are faced with an enormous change. It may seem to have been forced on you by someone close to you, or just maybe… it occurred because you weren’t being honest with yourself about what was happening.
We all want to believe that the people in our lives have our best interest at heart, and on some level they do. Yet, you know… sometimes people are just selfish and they aren’t thinking about you at all.
The question then has to be asked, “Are you focused on you?”
I wasn’t. Not enough anyway… and the tumult of my life is forcing me to get real and terribly honest about a number of things. This is a good thing, and as much as I’d like to just blame others, my circumstances or something… anything, outside of me. I can’t.
I am an Amazon.
I’m a modern woman who is battling just like the historic Amazons for a way of life that makes me the center of my own existence.
Here a few things to consider.
- Are you doing more than is reasonable to make other people happy?
- Are you letting someone else’s opinion of you color how you feel about yourself?
- Are you spending a lot of energy wondering what other people are doing, feeling, needing or thinking?
- Do you spend time every day making you own personal connection to yourself - either through meditation or physical exercise?
- Are you scared to face a reality that is not really what you want to experience?
These are just a few of the things that I’ve been mulling over these past 6 weeks of my retreat. It’s been grueling, but I have the 4 Amazon Principles to work with and a lot of spiritual muscle that’s making this process pretty fucking amazing. One of those principles being “An Amazon Takes Responsibility for Herself”. What that implies is that EVERYTHING that I experience is a function of my own creation.
So, if a shit storm has arrived… what did I do to bring it to me? What is it’s ultimate purpose?
A few months ago, I remember stating that I wanted to “release all resistance” in my life… whatever was holding me back, well it had to go. That’s certainly what I’m experiencing right now… and it’s hard. But… and I did want this on some level. So, how to deal with it requires something emerging that I didn’t know I had available to me… it’s like giving birth to a child, but this time it’s me.
I get to sort out years of beliefs that just aren’t true…. beliefs about my value, worth and desirability. All handed to me by a person I trusted implicitly with my heart and soul. Do I change that perspective, or trust that there is something quite rich here for me to understand about my self.
I choose the later, and it’s making me fierce… in between feelings of tremendous pain, anger and sadness. Forgiveness is not easy, but it’s something that I believe is making me truly into the Amazon I’ll need to be to help you make yourself into one.
Suffice it to say… we are all in charge of our lives in every way and it’s not easy to accept that challenge, but it does offer some amazing power.
I’ve extended my time here… so expect more missives from a land of beauty and peace… for this battle weary Amazon…
The Queen
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Female Power
By Kyle | July 18, 2008
The idea that we can let go of all our previous beliefs about what a woman “should” behave like takes some work. Being powerful in the world today is your gift to everyone around you. You are now in a position to let go, or “throw away” all your preconceived notions about what being a woman actually is.
Of late, my personal journey has required a tremendous amount of soul searching - and an in depth look at my life, what I’ve been doing with it, and how I’ve spent my own energy. Every woman ought to take the time to do this, and really you don’t need to go into the depths of despair like I have, to do that.
Do it anyway.
Feminine power is an illusive thing; meaning it moves around a lot. We are powerful because we are beautiful, we can control others or tend to them, we can stand up to what’s “wrong” and celebrate what’s good and right with the world. We are where everyone looks to for that guidance.
Men seem to have the upper hand in society, but that just isn’t true. Who runs the household, who takes care of the kids, who offers the bulk of her time to the betterment of society?
Women.
So, just start living like that. Resist the urge to take care of others when they are not pulling their weight. You aren’t doing them any favors, or yourself. Say “no” and mean it when someone asks you to overlook their behavior or actions when said behavior is out of integrity. Practice entertaining ideas or thoughts that are taboo, or not cool to have. Take people out of your life who disrespect you, or dismantle your sense of dignity with their words or actions. Call others on their lack of integrity with care and love, requesting they return to that state of grace. Practice acts of love randomly and without any expectation of return… do this daily and with a sense of the divine.
Stand up for yourself… and always ask “what would love do here?”
Small things that provide you with a deep sense of connection with all that is, and the you that exists within that…
Blessings…
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Why Women Should Rule The World
By Kyle | July 9, 2008
There’s a new book out called “Why Women Should Rule the World” by former White House Press Secretary, Dee Dee Myers. I have yet to read it, but the premise certainly interests me.
Ms. Myers is proposing something pretty radical, and if I was more awake right now I dig in a little deeper than I’m going to right now. Let her speak for herself. Here’s a link to a clip from a brief interview she gave regarding Hilary Clinton’s race for the presidency, and the media coverage she received. Dee Dee Myers
And here is an article from iVillage you can read written by her.
Once I read the book I’ll probably post about this again.
The Queen
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Men in Relationship to Powerful Women
By Kyle | July 1, 2008
Men and strong women… ever thought about how that goes. It can be a slippery slope, but it’s worth thinking about. You may use your relationship with a man as an excuse to hold back your power. Women are are trained to defer or behave a certain way around your men, so it takes some reflection to see who you’re being - strong or not so strong.
Of late, it’s become crystal clear to me that being a strong woman can mean that who you are relating with may not be actually strong enough, or man enough to stand next to the woman he’s chosen. He isn’t faulty for that, but it’s important to understand what the signs of that disparity are.
Here’s what can happen with men and strong women…
One; your strength could be misunderstood and viewed as someone who is actually weak for being vulnerable, generous, and forgiving. When you are capable, and take care of your life, your man may feel like he has to “one up” you. It could be that he treats you poorly, withholds information from you, or criticizes you. It could even mean that he spends a good deal of time building a case against you, and accuse you of confining him. Stand up to this, trust your instincts, know that what you are feeling may very well be true, and challenge him. If he is truly a man, he will meet you there, and become even more of who he is.
Two; When you are willing to stand firm on what you know to be true, and expect your mate to behave the same way, he may conveniently forget that he is the other half of the equation. You are not required to hold up the entire structure of your relationship, he has a part in it too. In the cultural paradigm we live in today women take far too much responsibility for relationship. Being a strong woman gives your man the ability to live into his power, and remain in relationship with that, and you.
Three; Know when to leave. This hurts, because you also love him, but you aren’t doing him or you any favors. When you are in a relationship with someone who is making you wrong, won’t discuss what’s going on for him, withholds information, or blames you for being over sensitive - it’s just a matter of time before he could do something cruel and/or betray you and the love you’ve shared with him. Be strong enough to know when it’s time to exit, and do it. Regardless of who ends a long term relationship there will be pain. Better for it to be clean and uncluttered with other people, dishonesty or cowardly behavior on either part. Your strength will give you and your lover an opportunity to release each other with compassion, gratitude and love.
You are responsible for yourself. Loving someone does not mean that you should get small around them, or put them on a pedestal. Because you are powerful, look for men who are your equal. There out there, and they are a lot of fun!
Cheers,
The Queen
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A Status Report on U.S. Women
By Kyle | June 24, 2008
My views on how women feel about themselves were recently criticized and judged by a person I know. This person felt that I focus on what’s wrong, and not what’s right in the world for women, even though there are plenty of indications that things are very out of balance in our culture.
I tend to disagree with that. What I am focused on are solutions to glaring inequities that stem first from conditioning, and can be resolved by deep internal work that any woman can engage in. With that perspective, I like to share what I see going on not to wave a flag of how vicitmized women are, but rather as a means to help explain why you may feel that your best efforts aren’t good enough.
How many of us have sacrificed our own desires to provide something for others? How many women just shrug and say, “Oh well” when that job they wanted is given to someone less qualified, but childless? How many of us feel outrage at violence in the world, but never discuss the violence directed towards women in their primary relationship? We are very quiet about all this, and tend to get our panties in a wad about some flippin’ man we’re after, or if our bodies are perfect enough.
Who cares! Really, being on the forefront of outrage is not what I’m suggesting. Being a woman in charge of her destiny is. How can you do that if you are ignoring the very things that contribute to your sense of self being “beneath” or “less than” that permeate culture? How can you wake up to your desires without some deliberate awareness of what is presently happening?
I may be wrong, but being informed does not imply being a negatively focused human being. It is only negative when you aren’t seeing how you may be personally buying into anything other than your rights to be viewed as human and valuable. When you are clear that you intend to be treated equally, instead of as an object on display or the person who cleans up all the shit that others leave behind.
I’ve attached a recent memo from Women’s ENews… and encourage you to read it, and consider it without identifying with it in a negative way. Just let yourself feel what it would be like for everyone when we operate in a society that values everyone and their contributions.
THE MEMO: A Status Report on U.S. Women
Women’s eNews will expand on the following statistics to produce The Memo
- Wages: The gender gap in wages has been frozen since 2002 at the level of women earning 77 cents for every dollar men earn. Some women’s groups estimate that official gap is actually much wider. Sexual harassment, meanwhile, is unchecked and the cracks in the corporate glass ceiling are still leaving hundreds of women wounded.
Barriers to Employment: The United States is one of two countries where women’s labor force participation is actually dropping. Many pregnant women report being fired. Parents of only 1 in 7 eligible children receive child-care assistance. Women are overrepresented in the ranks of those leaving paid employment to care for others.
U.S. Employers Pushing Women Out of Work Force
- Poverty: The percentage of single mothers neither working nor drawing cash assistance surged to more than 30 percent in 2005 from under 20 percent before the welfare overhaul in 1996.
- Reproductive Health: Birth control costs skyrocket, abstinence-only education projects continue to fail, sexually transmitted diseases soar and abortions become more difficult to obtain for many. Meanwhile, the United States is ranked 41st among 171 countries in maternal death rates.
- Violence: Homicide is a leading cause of traumatic death among new and expectant mothers. One federal study estimated 20 percent of female college students are sexually assaulted during their undergraduate years.
Homophobia: Lesbians continue to live without the legal protections that full civil rights could provide, such as access to the benefits of marriage. Lesbians’ Legal Victory Wed to New Ballot Fight
So, you may not like what you read, but investigate it. What can you do about it, not with actions but with your energy? What are you aware of that stings a bit, or makes you feel angry? Does any of this actually touch your life, or one of your friends, family or associates?
Awareness does not mean that you become negatively focused, it just means that you have greater desire being born out of what you are witnessing… it’s a good thing, and provides you with great power to create more of what you want, instead of dipping more into any negative boxes.
Retreat is agreeing with me… ; )
The Queen
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Six weeks retreat…
By Kyle | June 21, 2008
Tomorrow will dawn for me in a whole new light. I’m freer than I’ve ever been in my life, and tomorrow I begin on a journey of self discovery and expression. I don’t know where I’ll end up, but I know that it’s all part of the profound “becoming” fully engaged in my life.
The past several years I’ve been so busy making my life work around my family, and right now there’s a perfect window for me to explore myself. I intend to explore it fully. The book I’ve got in the works will be tended to, and written - in earnest… on one hand I’m excited, on another I’m terrified. But, I brought this on myself with my passionate desire for authenticity, I got a truck load of it recently.
The things that kick our ass, are the things that ultimately define us in profound ways. I’ll keep you posted, but for now this woman is striking out on a journey of self discovery unheard of so far in her life.
Wish me well!
The Queen
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Female Solidarity - or meddlesome women 101?
By Kyle | June 16, 2008
I want to talk about solidarity amongst women. I’ve tended to walk the middle road without being blaming to anyone about my perspective, but this needs to be said.
Recently I sent an email to a woman whom I don’t know and probably never will. I sent it to her because I was aware of her having been lied to, by omission. She was unaware of important facts, and I sent her an email filling her in.
Why did I do that? What business is it of mine?
Because I am a woman on a mission for equality, some people have called me a crusader and not in a positive way. But, my methods to achieve that balance are not steeped in focusing on what’s wrong. Rather, they are focused on what could be. In order to accomplish my goal, I am risking a lot. I’ve lost much in the way of what I thought was important to me at one time, to pursue my interest in raising awareness and making huge shifts in our culture one person at a time. These goals require being “inappropriate” or meddlesome… again, as some would say.
Thing is, when a woman is treated with deception, I’m going to say something. Said woman may or may not be interested in my communication, and email is by far the most impersonal method of communication on the planet, next to text messages - but it may open her up to whose really got her back.
Listen, not all men fall into this category but men have a privileged position in society, and can deceive women to get what they want and not suffer many consequences. Usually, it’s just a blow job their after - but it can also be comfort and security for many, many years. People will say what they want us to hear in order to remain unaccountable for their feelings or actions. Sometimes I will be compelled to communicate that deception. Sometimes I will.
All that said, I will always remain a warrior when it comes to women. I will always grow beyond my own limitations of perceiving any separation from any human being to produce positive change. I will always remain with the truth.
Hopefully that will provide me with the initiative to weather any storm or broad sweeping criticisms I face in the future, as I believe that I am about to experience much of that.
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An Amazon Stands Her Ground
By Kyle | June 4, 2008
One of the 4 Amazon Principles is - An Amazon Stands Her Ground - and that means just what it says. Being a person, and in this case a woman, who stands her ground on what she/he wants.
Now, my message is to women but I don’t ignore the fact that 49 % of the population is male. Either gender must be willing to stand their ground on what they want, and Hilary Clinton’s bid for the presidential nomination is clearly over. Still, she remains in the running, and now is interested in being the vice president.
She has plans, and she wants to see them come to fruition.
Read this article and see what I’m talking about.
Hilary is many things, but weak and a quitter she’s not.
Her efforts are respected, in spite of all the negativity and criticism - she is standing her ground on wanting these things;
“I want what I have always fought for in this whole campaign. I want to end the war in Iraq. I want to turn this economy around. I want health care for every American. I want every child to live up to his or her God-given potential, and I want the nearly 18 million Americans who voted for me to be respected, to be heard and no longer to be invisible.”
She’s proving to me that she is tough, fearless, and fierce.
She’s an Amazon!
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